Self-confidence is an attitude that is learned through experiences. When you experience success, you will tend to expect to be successful. And that feeling of expectation will cause you to have a feeling of confidence.

For example: A young man wants to learn how to be a prizefighter, so he takes lessons, and gets a manager. His manager will not put him into the ring until he has built up enough stamina and skill. And even then, the manager will only put him up against a competitor that he knows his fighter can beat. When his fighter beats the opponent, he is successful, and starts to gain confidence in his abilities. With each contest, the manager puts his fighter up against an opponent who is a slightly better fighter then the last, but not good enough to beat his man. By the end of the third fight, the young gladiator begins to expect to win his fourth, and so his confidence continues to grow. This scenario continues to repeat itself. And as long as the fighter wins, his expectations of success, and his feelings of self-confidence will continue to grow.

SELF-CONFIDENCE MENTAL EXERCISE
Imagine how your life would improve if you felt confident. First, sit back and take a few minutes to allow yourself to relax. If you know how to do progressive relaxation, then you should go ahead and do that. Or, you can download one of my FREE Power Relaxation Downloads from the website. Or simply fantasize a relaxing experience. Do you enjoy the beach? If you do, then make a brief fantasy of being at the beach. If your thing is the mountains, then make a little fantasy of being there.

Once you feel relaxed, it’s time for you to begin your first exercise. Make a mental movie of yourself. In your movie I want you to see yourself appearing to have self-confidence. What would you like having self-confidence to accomplish for you? How would you like it to make your life better? That’s what the story of your mental movie will be about.

Make your movie as realistic as possible. To the best of your ability, you need to make them: Moving; in color; close; three dimensional; focused sharply; and normally bright. Experiment with the following attributes of your mental movie to see which one makes it feel the most believable to you:

Try adding a border; try making it borderless (like an unframed picture); try making your movie into a panorama.

Adjust your movie so that it feels as real and believable as possible. The more often you watch these mental movies, the better. Bedtime is an excellent time to make these mental movies.

In the next post, we’ll discuss more aspects of self-confidence, and how you can go about gaining powerful feelings of self-confidence.

In the mean time, if you want to exhibit some confidence, you’ll want to take a look at my high-tech self-confidence solutions.