Hi,
I’m Alan B. Densky, CH. 

Many of you have written to me over the last several months asking why I stopped blogging. To answer that question, I knew that I’d have to open some very private parts of my life to the public. So at first I thought about just ignoring the question. But then I realized that by answering it, I might be able to help others in the same predicament that I’ve been in take a look at their own life.

Until December of 2008 I spent my entire adult life working 100+ hours per week. It’s been a grueling seven-day a week marathon. I have to admit that for many years I loved working all of those hours. I was helping a lot of people improve their lives and I found it very emotionally rewarding. But it took its toll on me, and it destroyed my personal life.

When I began to transition my hypnosis practice from the office to the Internet in 2005, I found that I was literally working almost every hour of the week. There are a lot of things that one must learn in order to build a successful e-commerce site.

One morning in October of 2008 I was rudely awakened by a phone call at 5 AM. My 86-year-old mom’s next-door neighbor frantically called to tell me to come quickly, something had happened, and my mom was having trouble speaking. All of her words were garbled, and paramedics were there. I later found out that mom had a stroke.

I got there just as the ambulance was about to leave for the hospital emergency ward. I leaned my head in the door to the ambulance, and mom was shaking her head “no” in answer to the paramedic telling her that he was taking her to the hospital.

To make a very long story very short, I spent between one and three hours per day, everyday for the next five weeks with mom. First in the hospital for two weeks, and then I visited her in the hospice everyday for the next three weeks after that. When I wasn’t with mom, I was still working the same insane hours on the Neuro-VISION business.

Mom died on November 17, 2008. After the funeral I sat down and took a long hard look at my life. From where I was sitting, all that I could see what that it consisted of work, more work, and then there was some more work after that.

At least I had been smart enough to take an hour in the morning 4 days a week to visit the gym. But that was pretty much my entire life. I had no personal life, no one in my life who was important to me – other than my two sisters. And since they both live 1500 miles away, I rarely got to socialize even with them.

So I decided that I had to cut back on work and manifest some peace, friends, and maybe even a nice lady in my life. Giving up the blog was just one of the many parts of my business that I decided had to go to make time for my new life.

Shoot forward 9 months – to today: I’ve cut way back on my working hours, and have spent some concentrated energy reviving some of my hobbies. Heck, I’m even going to a dance later this evening. But I missed the blogging, so I decided to add that back to my routine. Now, I may only be able to blog about twice per week, but I promise that I’ll do my best to keep things interesting to you. And I hope that you will take the time to drop by and leave your comments.

And as a matter of fact, I think that instead of making every post something about hypnosis or NLP or psychology, I might just tell you a little more about what I’m doing to try to put some balance back into my life. Maybe that will give you some ideas about improving your own life!