The dateís going well, and your eyes have been meeting all through dinner, sending out signals that the two of you are clicking, and youíre feeling hopeful. This could be a spectacular evening. But he (or she) is acting a little standoffish, and youíre just not sure why. You reach out for your dateís hand, and see . . .
Ragged, bleeding skin around where the nails should have been. Slightly disgusted, you put your hand back in your pocket, and walk on toward the car. You try to act like it doesnít really matter, but the image of raw flesh and bloody cuticles makes your stomach turn. Suddenly, the date doesnít seem to be going as well.
Lots of people have problems with nail biting, picking at scabs, or pulling at their hair. These are all considered by mental health people to be obsessive-compulsive disorders. Each of these seemingly unbreakable habits are downright humiliating at times, especially when people notice the results and call attention to their hands.
Can you imagine being at a party, and having a friend suddenly shriek, ďYouíre bleeding! You need a doctor!Ē Only to have to respond that your hands always look like this because you canít stop biting your nails? Itís enough to make you wonder whatís wrong with you!
people bite their nails almost automatically, without even thinking about it.
They do it as a habit while they are watching television or surfing on the web.
Other times, people do this deliberately, and will even stop doing other things
so that they can stop and bite their nails.
Why do people bite their nails or pick scabs or pull their hair? Because it is
somehow satisfying. The urge to do it is almost uncontrollable, and can be
enjoyable or even relaxing somehow.
Nail biting can be soothing and relaxing during times of stress or anxiety.
Alternatively, when people are bored, this can somehow stimulate the brain to
relieve the boredom. This can explain why people who repeat these behaviors
continue to do them over and over. It provides an enjoyable, comforting feeling.
If you suffer from a problem like this, donít despair. You can overcome this
problem. First, understand, you arenít crazy or helpless, and you can control
what you do. You just have a very bad habit that needs to be changed.
Even though you can never really say youíre ďcuredĒ from biting
your nails, you can experience relief. Just get ready and follow this
three-step self-hypnosis process. Best of all, you can purchase CDs or DVDs to
help you learn this process right in your own home!
First, you have to learn
to relax. This can be very easy to say, but difficult to do. Many different
approaches can help you to enter a relaxed state and experience a feeling of
relief and well-being.
Next, you have to start becoming aware of your habit. Your unconscious mind is
responsible for helping you to do this automatically, but you can learn to
become consciously aware of the problem so that you can learn to deal with it
teaches you to become aware of your nail-biting by instructing the
unconscious to alert your conscious mind every time your hands are reaching near
your mouth. Once you become consciously aware of this, you can make a conscious
decision whether or not you will actually bite your nails.
Another way to overcome a nail
biting habit is through Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). NLP experts
teach their clients to set up a trigger that will help them stop biting their
nails and experience relief from the habit without even becoming aware that they
are about to bite their nails.
Practitioners can also help people eliminate the compulsion they feel to bite.
Some techniques actually focus on teaching people not to bite. As strange as
this may sound, they are very effective and useful.
If you struggle with biting
your nails, you are going to have to be realistic about your recovery.
First, youíve been doing this for a long time, repeating the same behaviors
over and over for years. It isnít going to just stop overnight. But progress
can be quite rapid when the hypnosis sessions on the CD are listened to on a
Just think how wonderful your new manicure will look! And no one will look down
at your hands with disgust any more Ė and look down on you! Wonít that be
list of the common uses of hypnosis.
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