Have you ever tried to eliminate a negative behavior, only to fail? There is a long list of common problem behaviors that people often try to change or eliminate. Perhaps the most common are: Overeating and weight loss; quitting smoking; giving up chewing tobacco; nail biting; increasing self-confidence; overcoming insomnia and sleeping better; improving memory; and managing stress.
WHAT THE MIND CAUSES, THE MIND CAN CURE:
If you stop and think about it, all of these negative behaviors are the result of negative thinking. In other words, you think yourself into all of these behaviors, or at least you think yourself into feeling stressed, and that can cause these behaviors. And since you think yourself into these behaviors, you can think yourself out of them as well. But in order to successfully think yourself out of them, you will need to know the "Formula For Success."
You're probably reading this article because you want to change something about yourself. And that's convenient because the first element in the Formula For Success is that you must want or desire to change. If you have read this far, at least some part of you desires a change.
IS REQUIRED FOR MOTIVATION:
anyone can change or eliminate a negative behavior, that
person must be motivated to do so. Merely wanting a change
is not sufficient. Motivation comes from what we believe. If
we believe that something very important to us will get
better or "become enhanced" if we make a change in
our behavior, we will feel motivated.
if we believe that something very important to us will be in
jeopardy if we don't make a change in our behavior, we will
also feel motivated to change.
simple examples of these beliefs would be: If I lose weight
I'll be able to get a date or find someone to love me. If I
quit smoking I'll be healthier and won't have to worry about
cancer. If I stop biting my nails my hands will be a lot
prettier. If I can improve my memory, I can graduate with
THAT CAN CREATE THE BELIEFS THAT LEAD TO MOTIVATION:
Programming - which is commonly known as NLP offers
strategies that can instantly create the element of belief.
You can learn more about this by reading the article "How
To Get Motivated To Exercise Using Hypnosis And NLP."
dictionary defines the word "Decision" as making
up one's mind / a verdict or judgment. When you believe
something that gives you a powerful feeling of motivation to
make a change, you will feel compelled to make a decision to
change or eliminate a negative behavior. Decision is the key
that unlocks the door to taking action.
dictionary defines the word "Action" as an act or
deed / to do or perform. Taking action means that rather
than just thinking about making personal changes, you will
actually take steps to bring about your desired changes.
of the reasons that most people fail to change or eliminate
a negative behavior is because of their self-talk. Self-talk
is important because very often it is part of what caused
the negative behavior in the first place.
like you to think about this for a moment. Let's say that
you want to quit smoking. The first thing that you are
likely to say or think to yourself is, "I'm not going
to smoke anymore." It's common for people to tell
themselves what they aren't going to do. Unfortunately, when
we tell ourselves what we are not going to do, we are
actually programming ourselves to do it!
the following to yourself: I can't see blue. I can't see
bet your mind showed you the color blue, and then it showed
you polka dots. That's because when we tell ourselves what
we aren't going to do, or what we don't want to do, or what
we won't do, in order to make sense of it our mind must show
us doing what it is that we wish to stop doing.
when we see ourselves in a behavior, our mind gives us a
compulsion to generate that behavior.
order to eliminate a negative behavior, we must first want
or DESIRE to eliminate it. BELIEF is the element that leads
us to MOTIVATION. MOTIVATION leads us to DECISION. DECISION
is the key to ACTION.
is a technology or "tool" that we can use to
facilitate beliefs, motivation, decisions, and actions.
we tell ourselves what we are not going to do, we make a
mental picture of ourselves in the behavior that we want to
eliminate. And that mental image gives us a compulsion to
create the unwanted behavior.
if we want to eliminate a negative behavior, rather than
tell ourselves what we won't do, we must always tell
ourselves what we will do.
smoking say, "I can live without them."
eliminate cravings for fattening food or to quit
smokeless chewing tobacco say, "I can live without
stress say, "I'm relaxed and calm, both mentally
asleep quickly and overcome insomnia say, "I fall
asleep promptly, and sleep soundly and restfully throughout
© 2007 By Alan B.
Densky, CH. This
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Alan B. Densky, CH is
a certified consulting hypnotist and NLP Practitioner. He
runs the Neuro-VISION Video Self-Hypnosis website where he
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